Moving Abroad To Ghana When You Have Little Ones
When we finally made a decision about moving abroad as a family and we started telling people, we got all kinds of responses. Mostly negative if I’m being honest with you. People had a lot of concern for us. “How will the children adjust?”, “Don’t you think you’re only thinking of yourselves?”, “Ghana is not easy”, “You’ll be back in 6 months time” and so on and so on. Well that was 3.5 years ago now. Guess what? We are still here and still loving every minute in Ghana, things are not always easy but we love it nevertheless.
As a family we felt very strongly about coming to Ghana and whilst we knew it wasn’t necessarily going to be a bed of roses everyday, the burden in our hearts was so very strong that we just had to explore it. No matter what the neigh-sayers were saying or going to say next, we were determined to move abroad to Ghana.
In my short existence on this earth I have very quickly come to realise that you can not make everyone happy all the time. Someone, somewhere will always think that you are making a bad decision no matter what you choose to do. I find that these are the people who are the most resistant to change and thats ok for them but if you want to be successful in the things that you want to do, it’s probably a good idea to avoid the advice from these types of people. I’m sorry if this offends you.
On the other hand they could also potentially be right in that, we come to Ghana, fail miserably and run back to the UK with our tails between our legs. If that happens? So what?! It’s a life experience that we would never have been able to have had and a great story to remind the children of later in life.
There are a million things in this lifetime that are open to failure. Starting a business, learning to drive, buying a house, going to university, getting married and even cooking! Does it mean that you shouldn’t try? If we only look at the bad things that could happen how could we ever get anything done? Its a known fact that most successful people take risks so why don’t you?
Peoples main area of concern seemed to be directed at the children. My children at the time were 5, 4 and 1.5 years old.
“They will miss their friends” My response: “They will make more friends”
“What if they get sick?” “My response “They can get sick anywhere and even if they do we can take them to hospital”
“What about school?” My response “ *crickets* “ I‘m tired of defending my choice to homeschool.
“They will not be able to adjust to a new country” My response “Children are very resilient and they are already really excited about moving abroad”
And the list goes on…and on…and on…
Well as I said it’s 3.5 years later now and we are still in Ghana. It definitely hasn’t been easy all the time but we have all learned some great life lessons, met some amazing people and broadened our horizons. I have come to realise what my giftings are, finally! And my husband thinks that beyond the sky is the limit. You just can buy experiences like these so for us moving abroad has already been successful.
The childrens thinking has changed dramatically. They see people who are perhaps not as well off as we are and some that are much richer than we are. It makes them think. They are beginning to think about entrepreneurial businesses (without even knowing it). They have seen so much construction around them that I think they could build a house themselves (haha, well perhaps not quite yet).
When we first moved to Ghana the children thought of it as an extended holiday, it took a while to get routines going for them as there was a lot of ups and downs to be had. We were potentially learning a new culture, where to shop, how to get around and finding somewhere to live. It was tough at first but the children were oblivious to it all. For them, they only cared about the outside space to ride their bicycles, how good the food was and the fact that they could wear their sunglasses and didn’t need a jacket to go out in.
My point out of all of this is. If you are using your children as an excuse for not moving abroad, it really doesn’t have to be the main reason. Believe me they will adjust even faster than you will. Your experience of moving to another country will open their minds exponentially. Don’t let negative people stop you from trying something new. Even if it turns out to be a mistake, its your mistake to make. As humans we make mistakes everyday.
To all the people that still think we are on an extended holiday. Tomorrow we will probably go for a swim…for homeschool purposes you understand. Theses are the joys of homeschooling and moving abroad. *wink!